Next Move

Date: 23 May 2003 22:14:55 -0700
Newsgroups: alt.support.shyness
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Hello,
I need some advice so I hope there might be some takers (women 2!).
I had the opportunity to get into contact with a girl who for years I
only knew by face and she likewise until now. (Heck it's a small
world)
Basically I have met her personally twice or so at a dance party and I
think she is showing some interest since by the end of one night she
came seeking me out and waved at me a few times.
Anyway everytime I have managed to talk to her (at these dance
parties) it's all simple ‘gentleman talk' ie what she does, what she
likes doing, what I do, a few hints as to what makes me tick and of
course I try to give her control of the conversation and etc.
Unfortuantely as we all know simple talks gets you know where in the
long run. I am not sure how to make the next move on her which would
indicate YES I am very much interested!!
Sure you can grab her the girl by the bum, plant a kiss however she is
a tough cookie (size 8 blonde who has left a trail of rejected guys)
and I don't wish to be slapped out. I am also not a sleeze.
I am worried if there is a next time if I don't try to get to the next
level she will think I am gutless, not ‘manly' or just a blabber
mouth (eventhough I am not)
I guess the question is how to get from the simple chit chat to
showing that you are interested. What are suggested moves without
being stereotypical or corny? What does a guy do?
What can you do. I wouldn't do this if I didn't think she might have
half a tea spoon of interest and I don't want to live with regrets by
not doing anything. Who knows I might have already ruined things.
thanks